• Getting Past No

    In order to really raise free people, including myself, it takes a LOT of self-work.  It’s deep work, it’s continuous, and it can be overwhelming. Who knew I had so many personal challenges??  But the steps forward feel so GOOD! I’ve mentioned that I, and other people in my household that shall not be named, have control issues (and communication challenges) that show up in various ways.  We aren’t abnormal or strange. We were taught that being a good parent meant having your kid under control. And we are some good ass parents because we control the shit out of everything! What time she wakes up, what time she goes…

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  • When Your Partner Has Different Parenting Practices

    I thought I would share a few things that I am learning, living, and growing through while parenting with a partner that does not fully align with your parenting philosophy.  Around August, we decided – well, I decided and pressured him – to unschool for the 2020/2021 school year, which starts with a period of deschooling.  The words unschooling and deschooling are SCARY for most people, so let me give you a couple of definitions from Akilah S. Richards, author of Raising Free People: Unschooling as Liberation and Healing Work.  People typically think unschooling is letting your kids do what they want and not parenting appropriately.  Akilah, ‘cause she’s my…

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